Dear Prospective Families,
Above the desk in my home office is an excerpt from a poem entitled Fire by Judy Brown. I came across this poem as I was grappling with the major transition of leaving behind my role as a Head of Lower School in Atlanta to move back to the Northeast and be closer to family. Rather than immediately securing another leadership role, I decided to become a student again. I spent that following year pursuing studies in coaching and organizational development, a topic that had become of great interest to me over the years.
During that year, I relished the chance to learn. I took time to process—to sit with and reflect on new learnings. For me, that experience prompted a perennial question of how we might build good fires, both for ourselves and our children, by paying attention to the spaces we intentionally create between the logs. This can admittedly feel counterintuitive to our culture of doing. As a society, we’ve normalized the idea that more is better—more homework, more advanced classes, more clubs/activities, and more projects at work. But what if the opposite were true? What if we did less and focused on quality instead?
According to some researchers, it is said that by the age of somewhere around 8 to 10, that children today will have multiple times the amount of input in their lives than children of generations ago. The ubiquity of technology, increase in structured activities, and corresponding decrease in unstructured time has led to a shift toward what some researchers refer to as “modern childhood.”
In D-E’s Lower School classrooms, we’re finding ways to create intentional spaces between the logs.
Children might spend an entire period exploring just a few math problems to underscore genuine mathematical thinking. The goal is not just to arrive at an answer but to understand why. A rich problem can help students develop conceptual knowledge and provide opportunities for creative problem solving rather than following algorithmic procedures by rote.
In literacy, teachers slow down to help children explore a text deeply. Students analyze how an author builds meaning, dissect themes, and peels through the unique perspectives of characters.
In art, students take journeys to the Middle School gardens to connect with their environment and make close observations of the natural world. By honing their observational drawing skills, they notice the patterns, lines, shapes, and colors of their surroundings, while benefiting from the creative and restorative power of nature.
In each of these examples, the emphasis is on quality over quantity by creating time for children to notice, reflect, and process their experiences. And we hope these ideas won’t end when the school day is over. It can be nurtured just as powerfully within the rhythms of family life by leaving room for unstructured play, shared mealtimes, and casual conversations.
In a world that moves so fast, I hope we can honor the value of slowing down and creating space, knowing that a fire burns with greater strength and vigor because of them.
With gratitude,
James Choi,
Lower School Principal